The Myth of Unhappiness
This excerpt from "The Myth of Unhappiness" by Bruce DiMarsico is quite philosophical or maybe esoteric. I find it's a beautiful and simple description of trusting in one's own inner wisdom. None of us were created by mistake. Feel free to substitute the words "thought" or "thinking" for when he uses "belief" or "believing". Enjoy!
The only truth regarding happiness- true, real, felt happiness--is this: you are the best for you. Your decisions are the best. Your desires are the best. What you think is the best way of thinking for you. You, as you are, are the best you for others. There is nothing about you that is not the best for you getting what you want. You are the best you for having what you want. What you forget is best forgotten.
When you remember, it is the best time for you to remember. What you like to eat, when you want to sleep, what you love to have, who you want to have love you, etc., is the best thing for you. When or if you change your mind, then that will be the best time to change your mind and that is the best change for you.
You know what is best for you. You absolutely know it. You cannot be wrong. It is impossible that you can be mistaken.
If another suggests something to you about what to think or what to want or how to do, because you know what is best for you, you will know, absolutely know, whether they are right or not. You know when you recognize what you want in their suggestion.
If they are right about what you want, if you now realize something you hadn't realized, it is not because you do not know what is best for you, it is precisely because you do know that what you want is best for you.
If you didn't become aware until another made you aware it is because you know it was the best time to be aware. If another tells you a truth that you recognize and you realize that you have not been aware before, that is because you know what is best for you. If it were better for you to have known sooner you would have made yourself aware sooner.
You are the best way of being yourself and being happy.
It only seems like we weren't because we believed otherwise.
Isn't it perfect that if we believe that we are bad for ourselves, we should feel bad, unsure, untrusting, crazy?
We believed that if we were good for ourselves we would always be happy and sure and confident and doing what pleased us.
No. That is wrong. Impossible. If that were true we would be lost. We would be truly hopeless, not only feeling hopeless. It is enough that that attitude makes us feel hopeless. If it were true we would also know we were hopeless and instantly die.
Because we begin with "if" we are still indicating our belief that we may not be best for ourselves. Change "if" to "since": Since I am best for me and you are best for you ... If I believe you are also best for me that is because since I am best for me I can decide that you are too. I cannot be wrong. It cannot be that I believe you are best for me because I believe I am not best for me, but only because I am. If I were to believe that you are best because I am not, then I will doubt even that decision and not really believe you are best for me. You are not best for me because only you believe you are best for me or because you are best for me by some outside magic, but because, since I am best for me, I can think or know that you are also all I want for me.
It is not because I lack anything for my fullness that I love you, but simply because I am sure of my desires and decisions as best for me.
When you are sure of you, your decisions for me are as good as mine.
When I am sure of me, my decisions are as good for you as yours.
I cannot be bad for you any more than I can be bad for myself.
What I think about me makes all the difference. Shouldn't it?
Should I feel honest when I think I may not be?
Should I feel happy when I think I may not be?
Should I feel happy when I think that I ought to be happy before I deserve to enjoy myself?
If I believe that doing or thinking what I would most love to think or do must wait until I'm happy, how will I become happy?
Happiness does not come from that kind of thinking or from doing that kind of thinking.
Happiness comes from thinking and acting, happily. Not acting like a happy person or trying to think like a happy person, but from being happy and believing and behaving happily.
It means be happy about how you think and what you want. Be happy to do what you want and do it the way you would most love to.
Let yourself happen. You're best. The way you'll happen is happy and beautiful and true.
Happiness is! Happiness lives in you. It directs every beat of your heart, every thought, every desire, every movement in your body.
Everything, Absolutely everything.
Perfection is moving you. You are now perfect.
With Love,
Sara Joy